Sunday Sendoff #34: Let It Go

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Brickwall's Sunday Sendoff

We often hold a death grip on things.

We want control. We want to impose our will. We want things to go the way we planned.

A lot of the time, this backfires.

The tighter we grab, the more things seem to pull away.

Opportunities. People. Progress. Peace of mind.

And what’s funny?

The opposite usually attracts.

When we loosen our grip…

When we stop trying to force…

When we stop trying to control every outcome…

Things start to move toward us.

Because Builders don’t force life.

We prepare for it.

We show up. We do the work. We build ourselves into someone who is ready.

Ready for opportunity. Ready for growth. Ready for the right people. Ready for whatever comes next.

You don’t have to squeeze life into submission.

You just have to become the kind of man life wants to move toward.

Let go of the death grip.

Do the work. Stay ready.

And let it come to you.

Builder Principle

Release the outcome. Control the preparation.

Something to Ponder

What’s something you’ve been holding with a death grip? What would happen if you let it go?

See You In the Arena

This week is just about over. Next week is just about here. Let’s keep building.

Brick by brick.

-Brickwall

What’s Your Walk In Song?

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If you had a walk in song (similar to a walk out song for a fighter) every time you entered a room…

What would it be?

Not your favorite song. Not the most meaningful song. Not the one with sentimental memories.

The one that says:

This is who I am when it’s go time.

A walk in song implies something most people never think about:

Presence.

You don’t shuffle into a room. You don’t apologize for being there. You don’t need to explain yourself.

You arrive.

And that song is the energy you carry with you.

This question cuts through all the noise.

No bios. No resumes. No humblebrags.

Just vibe.

Because nobody picks a walk in song that doesn’t feel like them.

The guy who picks classic rock? Steady. Grounded. Old-school. Hard to rattle.

The guy who picks metal or hardcore? Intensity. Edge. Controlled aggression. Ready.

The guy who picks rap? Swagger. Dominance. Rhythm. Confidence.

The guy who picks cinematic soundtrack music? Mission-driven. Main-character energy. Purpose. (Bonus points if it’s the Terminator 2: Judgment Day theme song.)

The guy who can’t pick?

Still figuring himself out.

Here’s the sneaky part.

The music you train to is usually your walk in music.

The music you play in the car when you’re feeling locked in?

Walk in.

The song that makes your posture change when it comes on?

That’s the one.

You don’t need to tell people who you are.

If they heard your walk in song…

They’d know.

Mine?

Sad But True — Metallica.

Slow. Heavy. Inevitable.

I don’t enter rooms quickly.

I enter them deliberately.

What’s yours?

The Training Ground That Is Life

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Life is one big training ground.

You do stuff. Stuff happens. You get valuable feedback. You get valuable lessons.

If you look for them.

Many (too many) people don’t look for them. They stumble through life with their eyes closed. Same mistakes, same ruts, same cycles.

Open your eyes.

Learn from everything. Use everything to become better and grow into a better human.

Take control and use life to sharpen you.

The Power of Laying on Flat, Hard Ground

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The Power of Laying on Flat, Hard Ground

One of the most powerful recovery tools I’ve ever used costs $0.

No equipment. No mobility routine. No stretching flow. No fancy breathwork protocol.

Just lay on the floor.

Flat. On your back. On hard ground.

And do nothing.

It sounds almost stupid.

Until you try it.

All day your spine is under load.

Standing. Sitting. Driving. Training. Looking down at screens.

Your vertebrae are gently compressed from the moment you wake up until the moment you go to bed. Your paraspinal muscles never really shut off. Your posture never really resets. Your nervous system never really stands down.

You are in a low-grade “go mode” for hours and hours.

Then you go sit on a couch. Or lay in a soft bed.

Which just keeps you in the same positions.

But the floor is different.

The floor doesn’t let you sink into bad posture. The floor doesn’t accommodate you. The floor forces you into neutral.

Your shoulders fall back. Your chest opens. Your pelvis settles. Your neck realigns.

Not because you’re trying. Because physics does it for you.

Then something else happens.

You start breathing differently.

You can feel your ribs expand into the ground. Your breaths get slower. Deeper. More diaphragmatic without you even thinking about it.

This sends a very old signal to your nervous system:

We’re safe. You can stand down.

Heart rate drops. Jaw unclenches. Lower back tension melts. Your mind quiets.

Within 3–5 minutes you feel it.

Within 10 minutes you feel like a different person.

This is passive spinal decompression without hanging from a bar. This is posture correction without drills. This is nervous system down-regulation without meditation.

This is ancestral recovery in its simplest form.

Because before couches, recliners, memory foam, and ergonomic chairs…

Humans rested on the ground.

Your body still recognizes it.

Stand up after ten minutes and you’ll notice:

You feel taller. Looser. Calmer. Clearer.

Like your whole system just exhaled.

Give it a try today.

Lay flat on the floor for 10 minutes.

No phone. No stretching. No “routine.” No trying to optimize it.

Just lay there.

And feel what happens.

No One’s Going to Give You Permission

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No one’s going to show up and tell you it’s go time.

No one’s going to step out of the shadows and declare you ready.

No one’s coming to bark at you to take action.

Wait for that…and you’ll be waiting forever.

Get out there.

Start before you’re qualified.

Move before you’re confident.

Build before you’re ready.

The only permission you need is your own.

You’ve been holding the key to your own cage this whole time.

The Difference Between Good Sleep and Bad Sleep Is Astounding

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It’s a difference you can feel.

Good sleep? You wake up ready to take on the world.

Bad sleep? You groan and think, here we go again.

Sleep blankets (pun intended) every area of life:

Training. Relationships. Parenting. Business. Hobbies.

After good sleep:

You don’t need motivation. You just move.

After bad sleep:

You need willpower just to act like yourself. Everything feels like a chore.

You start thinking something is wrong with your life.

There isn’t.

Something is wrong with your sleep.

Sleep is the force multiplier for everything you’re trying to build:

Muscle. Mood. Discipline. Patience. Creativity. Presence.

Fix your sleep and watch half your problems disappear.

Sleep isn’t for the weak.

It’s for the strong.

It’s not simply rest.

It’s construction.

Get your shut-eye.

Panning for Gold

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A lot of life is like being a 49er back in the day—standing in the river, sifting through the mud.

Most of what you scoop up isn’t gold. It’s rocks. Sediment. Noise.

But with patience and persistence, every now and then—you hit pay dirt.

Life works the same way.

The right people. The right work. The right pursuits.

You won’t find them in every pan.

Most of it won’t fit you. Most of it won’t build you.

But keep sifting.

Because when you find the gold, it changes everything.

Sunday Sendoff #33: The Things You’re Avoiding Are the Things You Need to Do

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Brickwall's Sunday Sendoff

There’s always something.

A decision. A conversation. An action.

You know it’s there.

You think about it in the shower. While driving. While trying to fall asleep.

And yet…you don’t do it.

You scroll. You clean. You organize. You find anything else to do.

Because it feels uncomfortable.

Heavy. Inconvenient. Scary even.

But here’s the tell:

The things that would move your life forward the most…are usually the things you feel the most resistance toward.

We avoid what matters.

Not because we’re lazy. But because we know it will change something. We know it’ll shake things up.

It might change a relationship. A routine. A situation you’ve gotten used to.

Avoidance is often a compass pointing directly at the work.

The workout you keep pushing off. The conversation you don’t want to have. The decision you’ve been “thinking about” for weeks.

That’s the thing.

Go handle it.

Builder Principle

Avoidance illuminates the path toward growth.

Something to Ponder

What’s something tough that you’ve been avoiding? Why not grab it head on and handle it?

See You In the Arena

This week is just about over. Next week is just about here. Let’s keep building.

Brick by brick.

-Brickwall